There, I said it. Half of you are probably already drafting hate mail, plenty of you either have no idea what that is or don’t care, but hopefully, just a few of you are agreeing with me. Let me explain.
I’ve watched quite a lot of the show, including the first movie, so don’t barrage with me letters about how I don’t know what I’m talking about. Secondly, I know my opinion is not your opinion, so let’s agree to disagree.
The Vapid Pursuits of the Upper Middle Class
I realize it’s all in good fun, but these are a group of women with little better to do than shop, drink, chase after men, and shop some more. Of course we all do that to some extent, but there’s more to life. Naturally, it’s a television show so they have no obligation or room to discuss everything from politics to science, but pick up your average copy of Elle or Marie Claire, and you’ll see that women are pretty well rounded, and good at multitasking when it comes to life. Aspiring to be these women borders on insulting, and god forbid I ever have to worry about more than my nail polish not matching my shoes – it might just send me into a tizzy.
A writer who can’t write
We know that Carrie works as a columnist and author, but the little tidbits of writing that she does find time for between her fashionably sexual escapades, are not exactly though provoking. The show tries to use her writing as a way of propelling the plot, but other than, “life is tough” and “maybe you should find a new man”, they don’t ever provide decent insight. All we can do is pray that we’re not as shallow and calculating as she and her friends and hope the rest falls into place.

This is totally worth three months of ramen noodles, right?
A poor grasp of financial responsibility
Okay, they like to shop. I get that, I really do. But do you know what else I like to do? Pay my rent, put away savings, and ensure I don’t have a lifetime of debt to deal with because of a shoe habit. Yes, this is coming from someone in the retail fashion industry, but even I understand that you should never risk losing your home over a new toy. With American credit use at an all-time high (and still rising despite the financial crisis), people losing their homes through poor financial planning, and young adults looking at never moving beyond their meager beginnings, doesn’t a show that centers around consumerism have just a little responsibility to its viewers in teaching them to say “no” once in a while.
Alright, alright, I’m a little conservative when it comes to my spending, and I have trouble imaging the woman who can’t live without a new handbag at the expense of adding to her savings, but there has to be a middle ground.
It’s All About Me
Michael Patrick King, the creator of the show said that Sex and the City was always less about choosing a man, or a bag, but “It was about, choose yourself”. I agree that women need a little confidence, and the show has done a lot to make women stand up for what they want, but Carrie manages to take that to a new level with each and every challenge. When she isn’t cheating, lying, or shopping her way to the poor house, all she thinks about is herself. In the real world any sane man would have seen through her “oh help me” facade and realized her for the conniving, self-centered piece of work that she is.
Clearly I dislike the character, but her complete disregard for everyone around her while she “finds herself” is nauseating. She’ll leave a man in her dust, not understanding what on earth she wants, then insist on a long and drawn-out conversation about how sorry she is, piling on the self pity. For a show that’s supposed to empower single, professional women, this is hardly a good message. That’s right ladies, it doesn’t matter how badly you screw everyone in your path, doe eyes and a little penance does the trick every time.
Here endeth the rant.
Have I misinterpreted Carrie and her friends? What’s this phenomenon really about, and what am I missing?
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